Here I am on the first day of college. Look at my eagerness! My huge smile, that dorky over-big red jacket, the bare bones of the ugly room.
I've been going through college pictures, wanting to make a scrapbook of those days. I scanned in a bunch of photos last night, and then I started reading my journal from freshman year. I can't decide if it's really funny or just depressing.
First of all, I am mostly interested in reading about what I did, who I talked to, etc. I want FACTS. I want a STORY. And what was I writing, my 18-year-old little coed self? I was writing about feelings. Yuck. Page after page of me whining about being homesick, worrying that I wouldn't make any friends, wondering how I'd do in my classes, rambling about boys. Hello, stupid little self! You are already going to remember the feelings! It's the stuff you're doing that will fade out of your memory! And, I was dumb. I actually wrote this down: "I can't understand this. I'm really feeling content in the mornings, tired but focused in the early afternoon, really down in the late afternoon, and then after dinner, I'm flying." Seriously? Hello, moron, it's called low blood sugar. Eat a snack.
Parts of it make me want to cry, especially the parts about my family, my immediate family of mom, dad, brother. That family is gone now, and I just have this long-distance father I talk to on the phone, a brother I only talk to on Facebook chat. I wrote that my dad was picking me up on Friday for a weekend trip in the truck. I hope he comes by himself so I can get him to myself for two whole hours. That made me cry. I still wish I could get him to myself for two whole hours.
I want to reach back in time and SHAKE that girl, that self-absorbed, melodramatic, dope and tell her to shut up! Pay attention! Stop worrying about stupid things, stop worrying about boys, focus on what is real and what will last beyond these four years. I want to whisper in her ear that she needs to soak in all that family time she can get, because it's only hers for four more years.
In all honesty, I do feel like I had a great college experience and I did learn so, so much. But I wish it was the 33-year-old me who could have four years out of time to read and learn and ponder, not the dumb kid who took it all for granted. Of course, one could argue that it was those four years as a dumb kid that grew me up.